Thursday, July 15, 2010

I'll Settle for Life...

To settle, or to be content in a life or in a situation in which your happiness has not reached it's full potential; it's a tempting idea, and I can even understand why so many people do it. However, forgive me if I don't join the others on that bandwagon. I'm twenty-seven and choice, not by chance. I have a wonderful family and an amazing group of friends; my life is complete. Yes, of course, I do look forward to the day that comes with the man I will spend the rest of my life with, and build a family with; however, I do not need that man to make my life complete.  I have had many an opportunity to settle, and you would think that the older I get, the more tempting it would be, but it's the exact opposite. Some may say that I get more and more picky with age, but I say that I get wiser and more in-tune with myself and what it is that I want out of this life. I have seen one too many people desperately try to turn Mr. Right Now into Mr. Right because they are "twenty-something" years old and that's just what you do when you're "twenty-something" get married. Well, not this girl. I will not mold someone into who I want them to be, and I do not need to change who I am for anyone else. I refuse to just be content.

Do I question decisions made in the past? Yes, all the time. Do I wonder if there has been one wrong decision that should have been made differently? Most definitely. However, do I question that I'm in exactly the right place in my life as of today? Absolutely not. Here and now is exactly where I am supposed to be. I have never been more sure of that. God has a plan for this world that we reside in, and the life that I live is a part of that plan. There are some days that I will pass a couple on the street, in a restaurant, or in the comfort of a friend's home,  that exudes love and happiness, and with my head slightly tilted and a simple grin on my face, I will drift off into a dream of the simplest day that I will spend with the love of my life; walking our dog, enjoying dinner at our favorite restaurant, or simply soaking up life from our lawn chairs. I would be lying if I said that I do not hope for that. However, I'm not waiting around for life to happen, because it is already happening. I live for today, and today, I am happy. I am 27 years old and single, and I am happy. Imagine that.

"When it comes to relationships, maybe we're all in glass houses, and shouldn't throw stones. Because you can never really know. Some people are settling down, some are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies." -Carrie, Sex and the City


  1. I couldn't agree with you more. Believe me, I lived the "Single and Fabulous?" life (do you remember that episode from Sex and The City?). I always felt content, but it seemed that I always got a feeling that others felt I wasn't.

    It wasn't until I met Dustin,and we had our first break-up that I totally missed something like I never had before. I really knew that he added even more contentment, excitement, happiness and all those cliche emotions and feelings to my life. He made me a better person.

    So I said, "good-bye" to my single life and, "hello" to married life. It's a new chapter in my life, and it's wonderful. Let me make my self clear though: I wouldn't trade ANYTHING for the years I had single, with my girlfriends, and that feeling of real independence.

    Don't you dare settle until you find someone who does exactly that for you!

    Single and Fabulous! (no question mark necessary)


  2. Yes! I definitely remember that episode :) Thank you for the feedback!

    I think the older we are, the more we are able to recognize and appreciate the people who come into our lives, and what they mean to us. Congratulations to you on finding the happiness that you deserve! :)